The Best Tips and Tricks to Last Longer in Bed: A Guide for Men - Pt. 1

The Best Tips and Tricks to Last Longer in Bed: A Guide for Men - Pt. 1

As the world’s leading provider of male pleasure products, Fleshlight understands the importance of sexual performance and the desire for men to prolong their sexual experiences. 

While various techniques and products are available to help men last longer in bed, navigating the options and finding what works best for you can be overwhelming. That's why we've compiled this comprehensive guide of the best tips and tricks for men to last longer in bed. 

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In this part one of a two-article series, we’ll provide you with the knowledge and resources to enhance your sexual stamina and satisfaction. So whether you're looking for natural techniques, supplements, or sex toys, this guide will be your ultimate source for sexual performance improvement. 

So, sit back, relax, and let Fleshlight help you become the ultimate lover.

Mental Techniques to Last Longer in Bed

Relaxation Techniques

When it comes to lasting longer in bed, sometimes the solution can be found in the mind rather than the body. For men who struggle with premature ejaculation, mental techniques can be incredibly helpful in improving sexual stamina. 

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One of the most effective approaches is to practice relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing exercises and progressive muscle relaxation. By taking slow, deep breaths and focusing on the sensation of air moving in and out of the body, men may be able to calm their minds and reduce anxiety, which is often a common trigger for premature ejaculation. 

Similarly, progressive muscle relaxation involves tensing and then relaxing different muscle groups in the body to release tension and promote relaxation. With regular practice, these techniques may help you gain better control over their physical and mental responses during sexual activity, resulting in longer-lasting and more satisfying experiences for both themselves and their partners.

Mental Distraction Techniques

Another approach that can be effective in lasting longer in bed is the use of mental distraction techniques. One such technique involves focusing on a non-sexual object or thought, such as a favorite sports team or a pleasant memory. 

This might help to shift attention away from sexual stimulation and reduce arousal levels, ultimately helping to delay ejaculation. Another distraction technique is reciting a poem or song lyrics in your head. 

This can be a helpful way to occupy your mind and prevent it from becoming too focused on the sexual experience, which can, in turn, help to reduce the risk of premature ejaculation.

According to famous male pornstar Johnny Sins in an interview with Fleshlight in 2020:

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“If you’re feeling like you’re about to cum, focus your mind on something else because where your mind goes, the energy will flow. Whether it's focusing on a different part of your body or something external, think about something not sexual. I even recommend trying some mental math. And then, once that ‘getting close’ feeling starts to go away, focus back on what’s happening and enjoy it!” 

Interestingly, in a recent Men’s Health article, they also advocated for implementing mental focus techniques to last longer in bed, but with a different mindset shift that allows you to be more present with your partner. If interested, check it out here.

With practice, these mental distraction techniques may become a natural part of your sexual routine and help to improve your overall sexual performance and satisfaction.

Physical Techniques to Last Longer in Bed

Kegel Exercises

If you're looking for a physical technique to improve your sexual stamina, Kegel exercises might just be the answer. These exercises are a type of pelvic floor exercise that involve contracting and relaxing the muscles that control urine flow, and they have the potential to improve ejaculation control for some men. 

You'll need to identify the right muscles to work on to get started. One easy way to do this is to try to stop urination midstream - the muscles you use to do this are the same ones you'll be targeting during Kegel exercises. 

Once you've identified the right muscles, simply contract them for 5-10 seconds, then release them. Aim for 10-15 repetitions, and try to work up to doing 3 sets of 10-15 reps each day, several days per week. 

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With regular practice, Kegel exercises can help to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and may improve your ability to control ejaculation during sexual activity. 

It's important to note, however, that Kegel exercises may take several weeks or even months to show significant improvement, so be patient and consistent with your training.

The Pause-Squeeze Technique

If you're struggling with premature ejaculation and looking for a physical technique to help you last longer in bed, the pause-squeeze technique might be just what you need. This technique involves, well, squeezing your penis to reduce arousal and delay ejaculation. 

To try this technique, start by getting aroused with your partner as you normally would. When you feel like you're about to ejaculate, pause and have your partner gently squeeze the head of your penis for several seconds until the urge to ejaculate subsides. Then, you can resume sexual activity and repeat the process as needed.

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The technique is effective because it interrupts the buildup of arousal and delays ejaculation while also increasing your awareness of your body's sexual response. To get the most out of this technique, it's important to communicate with your partner and work together to find the right timing and pressure for the squeeze. 

With practice, you might be able to improve your sexual performance and satisfaction and enjoy longer-lasting and more satisfying experiences with your partner.

For more on improving communication with your partner, check out part two of this article (coming soon). 

Final Thoughts

So there you have it! With these mental and physical techniques, you could be well on your way to lasting longer in bed and improving your overall sexual performance.

Remember, practice makes perfect, so work on practicing these techniques we discussed today with the hope of seeing the difference they can make for you and your partner.

Stay tuned for part two of this guide, where we’ll dive into other tips and tricks, such as lifestyle improvements, natural supplements, and more, available soon here on the FleshLife blog! 

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