Anal Adventures 101: A Guide to Anal Toys for Beginners

So, you’re looking for a little backdoor play, eh? You’re not alone. Around 40% of sexually active people have tried anal sex, and many of these individuals enjoy it regularly. It’s nothing to be ashamed of or try to hide. 

Sliding into your fifth base or someone else's fifth base is awesome! 

In this article, we’ll debunk anal play myths, shed light on the benefits, and ensure you're armed with the knowledge you need to start playing with anal toys. Welcome to our exhaustive guide to anal sex toys and anal play for beginners.

Let’s lube up and get to some fantastic anal stimulation. 

Anal Play: No Shame, All Gain! 

So, you want to get freaky with your P-spot. Or maybe you’re ready to penetrate some booty. Both are solid decisions. Anal masturbation is highly pleasurable. This type of play isn’t just for sexual extraordinaires; anyone can enjoy safe anal play.

The trick is figuring out how to do anal penetration well and safely. Unfortunately, there is a lot of misinformation out there on anal penetration, rectum, and prostate stimulation. We’re here to spread the truth. First, let's expand on the anatomy of backdoor play. 

During anal play, either a dildo, butt plug, other toy, or appendage will be inserted into the anus, past the external and internal sphincter muscles, and into the rectum. Or a penis will be inserted into an anal sheath. The thing with self-penetration is that the anus and sphincter are strong, tight muscles. Even getting anal beads past these bad boys can be tricky if you’re not taking the appropriate steps. 

The first time you anally masturbate on yourself, you’ll need to go slow. Work the muscles and use lots of water-based lube. If you're pounding into a sheath, lots of lube is also needed.

Practice makes perfect here! The real issue with starting anal masturbation is that there are so many myths out there that convince people to never try anal. We hate that. 

Let’s address some of the most insidious myths now:

  1. Only gay men enjoy anal play: Anal fucking is for everyone! Anyone with a P-spot or a penis will get oodles of pleasure, and even though women have a g-spot instead, they still can benefit from so much backdoor pleasure. 
  2. It’s normal for anal play to hurt: Not true! This is a very dangerous misconception. Using anal lube and the right procedures will make anal play simple and pain-free. 
  3. You don’t need to use protection with anal play: Even when using a silicone anal plug, protection can still be useful. It’s also 100% necessary for partner play. 
  4. It will be dirty: Anal newbies hear this a lot, and it’s total BS. There are ways to get your rocks off in the backdoor and remain relatively clean. 
  5. Your anus will permanently stretch: Nope. These muscles are tough and powerful. It would take a lot more than some careful anal orgasms to stretch you or your partner's hole. 

There are tons of lies about anal masturbation and anal sex. The truth is that it’s an insanely pleasurable and common act. 

Why Anal Toys Are a Game-Changer

From vibrating butt plugs to prostate massagers, there is a wide, wide world of anal toys out there. These devices are the secret weapon to your pleasure. Here’s what you get with anal toys:

  • Heightened pleasure
  • New sensations
  • Prostate orgasms
  • Ease of use
  • Simple foreplay
  • Explore types of penetration

The best anal sex toys allow you to dive into anal sensations and experience an extreme variety of pleasures. With a beginner butt plug, you can tease the delicate nerves of your sphincter and prep to take the girth of an anal dildo. 

With a beginner anal toy, you can slide your dick into a tight, pleasurable hole. It’s sexual sensations on an entirely new level. 

Picking the Perfect Beginner Toy 

Your anal starter toy should be body-safe, discreet, and designed for beginner butt play. The thing about shoving your penis in a taut anus is that this cavity is tight and delivers different sensations from a vagina. 

The first time you use a toy to pound away at yourself, it’s also easy to get overwhelmed. You need a toy that is useful for beginners and can grow with you. 

Check out our best sellers to help you select the ideal beginner butt toy for you: 

  • Fleshlight Classics: Our classic butt line is similar to the Pink Lady line, except it’s for the bussy! These are well-engineered, durable toys that are perfect for some introductory anal. 
  • Pink Sleeve: Our anal pink sleeves are model booty cavities in varying textures and tightness. You can try out a tighter butt with a pink sleeve, simply replacing your classic sleeve. It makes novice experimenting so much easier. 
  • Anal Training Kits: These trainer kits are either designed to prep you to take a big ol dick in the backdoor or pound away into a tight hole (without cumming immediately). Pick your poison and get to practicing. 
  • Anal Vibrator: This rechargeable toy puts the vibration in vibrator. It’s realistic anal on a whole other level. 
  • Porn Star Molds: These toys are all molded after a famous porn star's actual rectum, making your porn sessions much more realistic. 
  • Beginner Insertable Toys: These include toys like the silicone butt plug, beads, dilators, anal dildos, and more. All of these toys feel fantastic and are often a little smaller than the booty toys for the experienced. Just remember to only get insertable toys with a flared base. 

The Dos and Don’ts of Anal Play

Safe backdoor play is vital for an enjoyable experience. We’ve written comprehensive guides on safe play before, so we’ll just offer some important tips:

  • Do get appropriate lube for your toy.
  • Do take things slowly.
  • Do try new positions to see what works.
  • Don’t forget to clean your toys.
  • Don’t purchase low-quality toys.
  • Don’t start with the biggest/tightest size.

A small butt plug kit or manageable sleeve may be the move for beginners. Starting off with a giant hands-free pegging kit or ultra-tight booty sleeve may be a recipe for disaster. 

As long as you listen to your body and only buy reputable toys, you should be just fine. 

Navigating the Bumps in the Road

We hear all kinds of issues from people who want to adore anal masturbation but suffer some issues along the way. We'll reiterate that the most important thing to remember is to go slow and take things easy.

It’s okay if one toy doesn’t work for you. Try out other types of starter kits, stainless steel or glass butt plug, and more. 

Now, when it comes to hygiene, things can get tricky. You don’t need to douche your anus or bleach your toy aggressively. Just make sure you thoroughly clean your toy after every use. This hygiene practice will keep your toy servicing you for years and help keep you safe. 

Anal Bliss Awaits with Fleshlight’s Collection

You’ve taken one step closer to becoming a real anal masturbation aficionado. Use the rest of Fleshlight’s resources to help narrow down your perfect bum toy and start a highly pleasurable journey. 

Our anal collection is expansive and chalked full of unique, sturdy toys. What are you waiting for? Backdoor bliss awaits! 

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