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Get Your Freak On: How to Spice Up Your Sex Life

It’s true that the only things humans can really rely on are death and taxes, but relationships and sex make life a bit more enjoyable. However, did you know that only 42% of women and 54% of men in long-term relationships are actually satisfied with their sex lives? We were horrified, too. 

That’s why, at Fleshlight, we’ve made it our mission to help you spice up your sex life and get back to better sex. In this article, we’ll offer top tips to elevate good sex to great sex. Let the kink begin! 

Sex Life in Need of a Pick Me Up? It Happens

You love your partner, so why do date nights end in disappointment lately? Any quality sex therapist will tell you that even healthy, happy relationships with a previous healthy sex life can take a turn. 

Sexual ruts are normal. Sometimes, your sex life can lack its usual spark, and that’s totally okay. Here are some reasons that explain why a joyful love life doesn’t match a sub-par sex life:

  • Work stress: Real life is stressful, and it’s hard to stop work problems from following you and your partner home. 
  • New pet or child: Any new addition to your household will cause anxiety and stress that will often follow you into the bedroom. (Especially if it comes with interrupted sleep.) 
  • Aging: Sex is like a fine wine, and it does get better with age. But you’ll still need to navigate a changing sex drive, shifting erogenous zones, and more. 
  • Relationship plateau: As you get used to your partner and your life together, it’s normal to get a little bored. It’s called a relationship plateau, and investing in your sex life is one method of getting out of this rut. 

Fortunately, there are plenty of ways people can spice up their sex lives! Remember the first time you and your partner had sex? The nerves and excitement? With our top tips, your ongoing sex life can be even better.  

7 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life 

Check out these top seven tips from the certified sex specialists at Fleshlight. We’ll have you checking off your sex bucket list and cumming with pure satisfaction in no time.  

Work on Your Stamina

Age, stress, and physical challenges all contribute to declining stamina. It’s tough to try out new sex positions and really pound away if you’re cumming quickly and unexpectedly. Don’t worry; there are ways to up your stamina and get back to the good old days. 

Masturbation is one of the best methods to increase your sexual stamina. At Fleshlight, our performance-enhancing sex toys are specially designed to increase your stamina over time. 

They work by increasing the sensation and tugging on your member until you’re used to the powerful sensations of sex again. This method will help you enjoy sex longer and keep your partner satisfied. It’s the ideal win-win! 

Make a Must-Try List

The best sex tips we can possibly give are the ones that ultimately boost your relationship satisfaction through supremely satisfying sex. One of the best ways to do this is through a sex must-try list. This list will give you and your partner a fun activity and challenge to work on together. 

This “sex bucket list” is entirely up to you and your preferences, but could include items like:

  • Trying out new positions
  • Practicing sexting
  • Breaking out a pocket pussy vibrator
  • Getting extra kinky with oral sex

The possibilities are endless, and this is an excellent way for you and your partner to bond sexually. 

Switch Up Positions

Everyone gets tired of the same old-same old. Make like Ariana Grande’s “positions” and switch it up! Do you always revert to missionary? Test out the reverse cowgirl for some new sensations. Different positions can ignite new types of pleasure and can be paired wonderfully with a new sex toy. 

Plus, you can switch up your favorites and unlock new levels of pleasure. For example, try doggy style at different angles and with legs in new positions. The important thing is to discuss the plan beforehand and ensure everyone is on board. There may be a reason you haven’t tried out a particular sex position before. 

Make sure that your partner is excited about your new position for premier sexual connection. 

Lean into Fantasies

Sexual fantasies are nothing to be ashamed of. If you’ve ever had a fantasy you think you may enjoy, don’t be afraid to voice it and try it out. 

Reading erotica is a great way to get inspiration, but here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Break out the blindfolds to roleplay multi-partnered sex
  • Purchase some handcuffs for a fun trip into BDSM
  • Bring in whipped cream for some enthusiastic sex

All fantasies are an excellent way to build sexual tension and ensure a rejuvenated sex life. 

Test Out Role Play 

It may be time for a new persona to reignite the flame. Role play doesn’t have to be an exhaustive setup with backstory and costume changes. (This isn’t Dungeons and Dragons.) It can simply include a spicy cops and robbers play or a damsel in distress idea. 

The key thing with role play is taking things as far as you wish and are comfortable with. Some people prepare some lines to help with the mood. Some people bring in props or fun sex toys like a blowjob simulator.

Discuss things with your partner, and don’t be afraid to get creative! Your imagination is the limit with role play. 

Set the Mood

Environment is everything. When someone isn’t comfortable in their space, the sex likely won’t be any fun. More than this, though, the right space can really spice up your sexual adventure. 

If your usual environment isn’t cutting it, try extra measures to set the mood. Rent out a hotel room for an immersive role play. Set up candles for exciting candle play or a loving romantic scene. Try starting things out in the tub with some sensual bath bombs or even up against a wall for some rough and dirty play. 

Add New Toys to the Mix

Don’t fret. We have the inside scoop on the best toys in the nation. Here are just some of the premier toy options at Fleshlight:

Adding toys into your sex routine opens up a brand new, exciting realm of sex. These toys can optimize every aspect of play and get you guys pumped for sex again. Browse our collection to discover the best way to spice up your nights. 

Try New Ways to Get Your Freak On with Fleshlight

You deserve the best sex life that imagination and innovative toys can bring. At Fleshlight, we design body-safe, thrilling sex toys to bring you and your partner all the thrills. All our toys are made in the United States and designed to please for ages. 

Try out devices ranging from the ideal dildos for women to the best male anal toys and more. With Fleshlight, the possibilities are endless, and your sex life will never be the same.  

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