Calling All Backdoor Beginners: How To Masturbate Anally

Your butthole deserves some attention, and listen; there’s nothing quite like cumming after anal stimulation. Don’t have a partner? Is your partner not into butt stuff? No problem!

Solo-anal play is the perfect method that gives your backdoor some love and spices up your solo-sex life. In this article, we’ll offer premium anal masturbation tips to ensure you have safe, stunning butt play. Get your rectum’s nerve endings prepped for fantastic fucking. 

Anal Masturbation: What Is It? 

Great question. We’ll start with three basic definitions to set the scene:

  • Anal sex: This is a form of sexual intercourse where a penis enters the anal opening (sphincter). 
  • Masturbation: This is a form of self-sexual pleasure where you stimulate your own genitals. 
  • Anal masturbation: This is a form of self-sexual pleasure where you stimulate your own anus and anal erogenous zones and typically engage in self-anal penetration either with fingers or a toy. 

An anal masturbation session can take many forms and, for the first time, may seem overwhelming. The point of this guide is to provide all the information you need and help you eventually reach a self-inflicted anal orgasm. 

Anal pleasure, stroking your own prostate gland, and teasing your sphincter muscles is a whole new world that you absolutely should explore. Get ready to discover the insider tricks and tips for achieving the ultimate anal orgasm. 

Did Someone Say Toys?

Anal play should start with fingers only and plenty of lube, but after you become comfortable with this style of masturbation, move on to the fun stuff. We mean anal sex toys. Here are some of the standard butt toys that you’ll want to procure: 

  • Anal Vibrator: This powerful toy will gently insert into your rectum and, once inside, can vibrate against your prostate, sending you into waves of anal pleasure. 
  • Butt Plug: Ah, the classic butt plug. These toys come in many shapes and sizes and are designed for many uses. Most commonly, you can tease this device past your rim and then tug and twist for the best sensations.  
  • Anal Dildo: This toy has all the perks of the vibrator but without the vibration. It’s ideal for jackhammering your ass, and it's perfect when paired with a sex toy mount for some insane hands-free action. 
  • Anal Beads: Round, long, and in various sizes, the anal bead is a multi-functional toy that is super easy to operate on your own. Start by slowly inserting the smallest bead and get ready to cum. 
  • Prostate Massagers: These massagers come in many different shapes and sizes but are ultimately designed to stimulate your prostate gland. They’re often curved and can get you going in a heartbeat.  

All of these toys should be made of body-safe silicone or stainless steel. Any toys that can be left in the anus (like the butt plug and beads) should have a flared base. Items can and do get lost in the ass. Always choose toys with a flared ending to avoid ending up in the emergency room. 

Add a suction cup for some real fun, and always use a water-based lube or silicone-based lube, depending on preference and allergies. (Sorry, your backdoor glory hole doesn’t self-lubricate.) 

These toys will make your anal masturbation times much, much more enjoyable. Like everything, it’s best to start gently and switch up your solo-sex positions to discover what works best for you. 

Let’s Talk About Safety, Baby

Before we get into your full-on guide to anal jacking off, we need to touch on the safety rules. Anal masturbation is fantastic, but it also comes with its own set of risks. Check out these tips to avoid the dangers of backdoor play:

  1. Keep your nails short.
  2. Take breaks. 
  3. Lube, lube, lube, and more lube. 
  4. Maintain good hygiene.
  5. Don’t rush.

Your anal area is delicate. The skin in this part of the body is very thin and won’t do well being prodded and mistreated. A broken anal passage is zero fun. Treat your backdoor with the caution and respect it deserves, and you’ll be just fine.

Your Guide to Anal Masturbation

Now it’s time for the step-by-step guide to anal masturbation. Read on to discover all the basic tips you need for proper anal training and enjoyment. 

Prepare Your Backside

Anal self-pleasure requires a few more steps than plain old wanking. The first step is ensuring your bum hole is squeaky clean. 

For most people, this just involves clearing out your backside (a.k.a., a bowel movement) and washing the area well afterward. Use a gentle soap, washcloth, and water to clean up. Some people prefer using an enema, which may be overkill for self-pleasure purposes and isn’t necessary. If you like the idea of using an enema just follow all directions precisely and be careful. 

You’ll also need to prepare any toys you plan to use. They should be clean before use, and you may want to warm them up for extra sensational play. 

Let Your Body Relax

Your anal entrance is lined with strong muscles that will only relax when you do. If you’re tense, nervous, or stressed, it may be challenging to squeeze something into your bum. Relaxing your body will 100% help your backdoor open up more easily. 

This is sometimes easier said than done, so here are some tips that can help:

  • Practice deep breathing and lying back.
  • Bring yourself to orgasm as you normally would, and then start working the anus. 
  • Use distractions like porn or erotica.
  • Only tease your hole briefly during each session, working your way up to longer play.

You can’t force things. Anal masturbation is about relaxing and giving in to these stellar jolts of pleasure. It may take time to get there, but it’s so worth it in the end. 

Actually, Smaller is Better

While this is often not the saying associated with masturbation/sex, it is in this case. Smaller wins the prize when it comes to anal masturbation. Whether you choose fingers or a toy, start small and work your way up. 

If you’re flexible enough, then use the pinkie finger. If you get an anal training kit, then start with the smallest plug. 

Also, don’t forget lube!!! We really can’t emphasize this enough. Lubricant is your asshole’s best friend, helping you have fun and stay safe. 

Scrub Everything Down

You want your next session to be as wonderful as your previous one. When you’re done, make sure you clean up after yourself and scrub any toys you used in the process. Proper hygiene is essential!

Use a body and toy-safe cleaner (it must be a legit cleaner like the Fleshwash) and rinse thoroughly with water. Ensure the toy can dry completely before storing it in a safe and dry spot away from heat or the sun. 

Explore Your Backdoor with Fleshlight

All of our anal toys are designed to bring you ultimate pleasure for years to come. These toys are body-safe and made with tough silicone. Every single one is made in the United States and will ship discreetly straight to your door. 

Don’t wait. Put your solo pleasure first with Fleshlight’s anal sex toys, and you’ll never look back.
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