Welcome everyone to the comprehensive guide on all things autoeroticism, sex, and solo pleasure! Discussing sexuality and learning about new erotic opportunities doesn’t have to be a taboo subject.
In this article, we’ll openly explore what autoeroticism is and all the techniques used to bring on this sexual arousal. Sexual excitement and sexual feelings are meant to be explored, not repressed. Let your freak flag fly with Fleshlight!
What Exactly is Autoeroticism?
Great question! The definition of autoerotism is pretty simple. (You can Wikipedia it if you doubt us.) It’s essentially any form of sexual gratification that comes from stimulating oneself with one's own body only. It is essentially a synonym for masturbation.
There is only one significant difference between the terms masturbation and autoeroticism. Masturbation can include acts like mutual masturbation, whereas autoeroticism is only self-masturbation. Need a reminder of what mutual masturbation is? No problem!
Mutual masturbation is when partners use their hands or toys to stimulate each other's genitals. They don’t engage in penetration or oral sex. This is a super fun method of masturbation, but it’s not autoerotismism.
Want to get your partner involved in your autoerotism practice? We’ll tell you how later on.
The Advantages of Autoeroticism
From the British in London to the Italians in Italy to the Argentinians in Argentina—everybody masturbates, and almost everyone engages in autoeroticism. We won’t lie to you, though. We’re a little biased.
Masturbation opens the door to new levels of pleasure and satisfaction; the benefits are near-endless. Here are just some of the fantastic perks of autoeroticism:
- Improves your mood
- Gives your sex life a boost
- Helps you sleep better at night
- Allows you to explore your body safely
- Decreases your risk of cardiovascular disease
- Naturally relieves your pain
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Combats poor mental health
Don’t hesitate to invest in your autoeroticism routine. It’s a normal and healthy way to experience pleasure, and it comes with loads of benefits.
Revving Your Engine: 7 Ways to Turn Yourself On
Self-stimulation can be complex, and it’s totally normal for your sexual desires to shift and change. (You may have heard that human sexuality is a bit diverse.)
Discover the pillars of your autoerotic practice below, and elevate your masturbation game.
Take Your Time
You probably engage in self-sexual pleasure when you’ve got some time to spare, so what’s the rush? If possible, take your time and go slow with masturbation. It’s not a race to the finish line.
A slower pace can help set the mood for your sexual practice and give you time to build up anticipation. It’s almost like foreplay but with yourself. Pretty kinky.
However, we get that pacing yourself can be challenging. One tip we have is to use a sexy playlist. Simply turn the playlist on and don’t move on to another type of foreplay or amp things up until each song is up. This will help you build tension in a fun way.
Alternatively, you could use a timer, but that’s a little aggressive.
Put On Your Best Attire
Your underwear with holes in it probably doesn’t make you feel like a sex god. (Also, maybe it’s time to throw those away.)
The proper attire sets the mood and helps you connect with your body, whether that means lingerie or your favorite boxers; put on a sexy outfit that makes you feel confident and in charge.
You can also pace the stripping process. Instead of ripping off your pants immediately, try taking things slow. Remove layer by layer and get in the mood.
Dive into Your Fantasies
Autosexuality is all about exploring your unique, kinky sexual fantasies. This can take a whole lot of different forms from:
- Consuming porn,
- Erotic literature,
- Audio erotica,
- Practicing a kink like asphyxiation (safely),
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Or letting your imagination run wild.
You don’t want any sort of dysfunction in your self-sex life. This means you need to allow yourself to explore your deepest fantasies. Try looking on popular porn or erotica platforms for inspiration. If one fantasy doesn’t work for you, just hop to another.
Enhance Your Environment
We’ll say it in plain English: your space can make or break your autoeroticism session. If you don’t feel comfortable or inspired, then your wank session won’t be satisfying.
Here are some tips: light candles, dim the lights, put on a sexy playlist, whatever sets the scene and gets you in the mood. You also need to ensure the doors are locked and you won’t be disturbed. Nothing ruins your mood like being interrupted mid-session.
The act of setting up your space can be sensual and exciting all on its own. Once you have things perfectly ready to go, you may already be horny.
Engage Your Entire Body
There are nerve endings all over you, so any complete sexual behavior should involve the whole body. Exploring your erroneous zones will enhance any amount of autoeroticism and get you going in a heartbeat.
Also, trying new positions will allow you to discover what works for you and explore your body safely. We recommend starting in the most obvious places, like your chest, thighs, and neck. Work your way to other spots as you get comfortable.
You may discover some odd spots that get you going. For some people, the scalp, feet, and small of the back are all extra sensitive. Don’t be afraid to explore the hard-to-reach places!
Grow Your Toy Collection
Exploration is our word of the day, and what better way to explore than by adding fun toys to the mix? Sex toys will enhance your pleasure like you can’t believe and spice up a tired routine.
Any old toy won’t do. You need the best of the best, and that’s Fleshlight. Our toys are safe to use and last for eons. Check out fantastic devices like the pornstar pocket pussy and the ideal anal sex toys.
We offer plenty of toys for all varieties of kinks and preferences. Don’t be afraid to explore and get more than one item that catches your eye. And don’t worry; these toys are discreetly delivered straight to your door.
Invite Your Partner
While autoeroticism is all about self-pleasure, that doesn’t mean having your partner watch isn’t an option—get yourself off while your partner sits in the corner, enjoying the show. This can be an incredibly sensual experience for both of you.
Once they get physically involved, this changes over into a mutual masturbation session. Keeping things strictly no-touch and maintaining the autoeroticism of it all can get things kinky.
Discover What Gets You Going with Fleshlight
Using these techniques will help you achieve a fantastic autoeroticism routine that blows your mind (and your load) every time. At Fleshlight, we’re dedicated to helping men, women, and non-binary folks discover the ultimate pleasure.
This is why we make all of our sex toys in the United States using only the best materials. For us, it’s all about providing the toys that elevate your entire sexual experience.
We also put the auto in autoeroticism with our innovative sex toy mounts. Now, you can just sit back and enjoy an automated masturbation experience. You’re welcome (;