The Ultimate Guide to Dildos for Beginners

You don’t need to rely on your fingers or a partner for sexual pleasure anymore. Being a woman in the 21st century means having access to fun, safe, and pleasurable sex toys. 

Over 80% of American women own at least one sex toy, and one of the most popular toys is the famous dildo. In this article, we’ll dive into what a dildo is, the best kind for your preferences, and the ideal methods of use. Start your journey to elevated pleasure now. 

What is a Dildo? 

At its most basic, a dildo is an object shaped like an erect penis that’s used for sexual stimulation. In reality, there are dildos of all shapes, sizes, and purposes. From enormous joke dildos to discreet travel toys, there is a dildo for everyone. 

Most of these fantastic toys share the following characteristics

• Girthy Base: The last thing anyone wants is to struggle to fish a dildo out of their vaginal canal or anus. A thick base ensures that the dildo doesn’t get lost and also increases grip and usability.  
• Body-Safe Material: Anything that rubs inside you needs to be specially formulated. All quality dildos should be made of body-safe materials and work well with your chosen lubricant. 
• Bend or Express Function: A dildo should either have some bend and stretch to it or serve a specific function, such as cooling, double penetration, or vibration. 

If your chosen toy has these three characteristics, then congratulations, you’re looking at a dildo. This device is an excellent beginner introduction to the amazing world of sex toys.  

5 Best Dildos for Beginners

Tons of sex toys technically qualify as dildos, and with so many options, choosing the best one for a newbie can be overwhelming. Below, we’ve narrowed down the best dildo toys for beginners to make this process a little less scary and a little more exciting. 

Let’s get into it.  

Realistic Dildos

Are you nervous about purchasing your first dildo? Worried that it won’t feel natural or you won’t enjoy yourself? These concerns are perfectly natural and incredibly common. 

A realistic dildo is an excellent option for anyone with these worries. These dildos for women are designed to mimic the look and feel of actual members perfectly. They allow you to ease into using phallic sex toys and naturally slip into fun fantasies. 

Additionally, these toys at Fleshlight are made to look and feel exactly like the famous penises of your favorite porn stars. Did you jack off for the first time to the gorgeous Diego Sans drilling into someone? Or have you always had the hots for Johnny Rapid? 

With a lifelike dildo, you don’t have to imagine what fucking them feels like. Take home one of these girthy devices and sink into pleasure.  

Cobalt Lily Dildo

The best sex toys for beginners don’t have unnecessary features like glow-in-the-dark capabilities or rumbly suckers. Premier silicone toys for newbies are simple, pleasurable, and designed to last. 

The Cobalt Lily Dildo comes in a charming blue, making it easy to spot unclean areas, and is made of soft silicone. It is made in the standard straight penile design and doesn’t require a suction cup base. 

Golden Rose Dildo

Like Megan Thee Stallion famously said, “I like a dick with a little bit of curve.“ The Golden Rose Dildo is a stroker with a toe-tingling curve, capable of stretching your vulva and reaching for deep internal stimulation. 

You won’t need a G-spot vibrator when you have this pretty rose gold member in your secret stash. Plus, when you’re ready to level up your sex toy game, this dildo doubles as a fantastic anal toy. 

Plum Orchid Dildo

Every vaginal canal is different, and while you can make almost any member feel wonderful, there are some lengths, girths, and curves that will meld more naturally. The Plum Orchid Dildo is the ideal beginner dildo for those with a slight curve to their canal and a shorter canal. 

This 5.7-inch dildo has an insertable length of 5.2, making it highly manageable and usable for beginners. The Plum Orchid is easily adapted to clitoris stimulation before diving right into the main course. Improve your sexual wellness with this fantastic little device. 

Gläs Glass Dildo

A glass dildo may sound scary, but these powerful devices are perfectly safe and offer loads of pleasure. Glass toys are made of ultra-resilient, body-safe glass that can be cooled or warmed for a novel experience. This function doesn’t require rechargeable batteries or a complex electrical system. Simply submerge the device in warm or cool water, wait for 5-10 minutes, and remove it for play.

Tips for Getting Started With Dildos

So, you’ve selected your first dildo. Woohoo! This is just the beginning of a whole new world of pleasure. 

Unboxing your new toy will be exciting and maybe a tad confusing. These don’t exactly come with an instruction manual. Here are some tips for getting started with dildos:

• Starting small: You don’t need to immediately use the dildo during every masturbatory act. (Unless you want to.) Slowly work your new toy into your nightly routine. Start by using it for clitoral stimulation, then g-spot stimulation, and then to anal play. Take things at your own pace. 
• Investing in a good lube: A quality lubricant changes everything about your dildo experience. Avoid water-based lubricants and source high-quality silicone lube instead. 
• Getting comfortable: Set the mood with lowered lights, a comfortable location, and a locked door. You want to fully be able to express yourself, not spend time worrying about being interrupted or uncomfortable. 
• Involving your partner: Dildos don’t need to be a solo act. A partner can spice up your sex toy routine beyond your wildest dreams, so don’t hesitate to include them in your self-pleasure. 
• Expanding your stash: You don’t need to start off with just one dildo. Often, it’s advisable to purchase two to three high-quality toys at a time. This makes it easier to switch things up and discover what truly works for you. 
• Pop on a porno: Sex toys are even more fun paired with some visual stimulation. Watch your favorite adult films and easily imagine yourself in the action. 

Getting started with your dildo requires checking in with yourself regularly and taking things at your own pace. Don’t worry if you’re not immediately getting off with your new toy. It takes time to get settled and start enjoying mind-blowing orgasms. 

Start Your Dildo Collection With Fleshlight

The best sex toys are the ones that work seamlessly with your masturbation routine. At Fleshlight, we offer premier beginner-friendly dildos for first-timers, along with advanced toys for intense solo play. From strap-on vibrators to insertable butt plugs to hands-free suction cup dildos—we have it all.  

Start your sex toy journey with the best in the business and get off like never before. When you’re ready to take the next step, check out our vibrating dildos with adjustable vibration speeds, pegging attachments, and more.