Are you curious about how to use this powerhouse sex toy but not sure where to start? Most people’s first time using a magic wand is a little messy, and the whole process can be intimidating. Don’t worry, we got you.
Knowing how to use a vibrator before diving in can enhance your sexual experience and increase sexual pleasure. In this article, we’ll explain what a vibrator is, explore the different types of vibrators, and offer expert guidance on how to use your new toy.
What are you waiting for? Keep reading to find all the tips that get your clitoris throbbing and boost your masturbation game.
What are Vibrators?
We’ll start at the beginning. From basically the beginning of time, humans have been trying to replicate the feeling of a warm, throbbing dick up their pussy or anus. (In fact, the first dildos were invented to stimulate penetrative sex over 28,000 years ago.) But it wasn't until the late 1800s that the first vibrator was invented.
It was made as a medical device to cure men’s impotence and was never widespread. The first mass-market vibrators for sexual pleasure didn’t come along until the early 1900s. These were clunky and prone to failure, though. We’ve come a long way since then.
Nowadays, a modern vibrator is a vibrating sex toy that is made for either internal stimulation and/or external stimulation. The vibrator provides sexual stimulation when used on erogenous zones, clitoris, vulva, labia, and inside the vagina or anus. These toys are either rechargeable or battery-operated; almost all require lubrication (usually water-based lube).
The best vibrators are incredibly versatile and boost your sexual health like nothing else. There are also many types of vibrators, including:
- Bullet Vibrator: These are shorter and thicker vibrators that travel with ease.
- Rabbit Vibrator: This vibrator is designed for dual vaginal and clitoral stimulation.
- Suction Vibrator: This vibrator uses vibration patterns and air to suck at the clit.
- Wand Vibrators: This is your classic vibrator that is molded after a standard penis.
- G-Spot Vibrator: This toy is curved to really get into g-spot stimulation.
- Clitoral Vibrators: These are any small vibrator that specifically targets the clit.
Almost all of these silicone toys offer different settings and improve your partnered and solo-sex life.
The Wondrous Perks of Vibrators
Using a vibrator is a kinky way to boost your wellness game, as there are tons of physical, mental, and emotional benefits of using these toys. These perks exist whether you’re using your vibrator alone or with a partner.
Here are just some of the perks:
- Improved pelvic floor muscle strength
- Improved incontinence
- Treatment of vulvodynia (pain around the vulva)
- Increased blood flow (which boosts heart health)
- Treatment for insomnia
- Stress reducer
- Expands bladder control
- Increases your pleasure options
Vibrators are a full-blown panty party, and most sex experts agree that they’re fantastic starter sex toys. These toys can mimic the sensations of oral sex, lead to excellent foreplay, and revolutionize your sex routine. There are so many perks it’s hard to imagine living without your vibrator once you start.
Plus, as mentioned, a vibrator is great for partnered sex and solo play, opening the doors to unheard-of fantasies. Below, we’ll dive into our best tips on how to use these stellar devices, but before we do, it’s important to remember one thing. The vibrator you use should be from a reputable sex toy maker.
Never ever purchase from a cheap or knockoff supplier like most Amazon sex toys. You and your genitals deserve the best; don’t settle for less.
How to Use a Vibrator: Solo Style
Here’s the thing: since there are so many different types of vibrators, the techniques you need to employ are also different. Both the vibrator you’re using and your goals will determine how you should use your new toy.
With this, there are some tips you’ll need for using almost any kind of vibrator.
- Lube Up: Any sex educator will tell you that lubricant is absolutely necessary when jacking off with a vibrator. Purchase a premier water-based lube designed for your toy. Keep it well stocked and stroke a dime-sized amount onto the vibrator before play.
- Start Slow: Most vibrators come with different speed and vibration settings. Start on the lowest setting and rub the vibrator against less sensitive areas, like the outer vulva or inner thigh. Work your way toward your most sensitive parts and then up in intensity.
- Dig Deeper: Ghosting your toy over your clit and anus is incredibly pleasurable, but you can reach untold levels of pleasure by pushing at your genitals. Rub harder over your clit, pushing deeper into the little bean. Stretch your pussy and anus harder for ultimate pleasure.
- Switch Things Up: Switching up your pacing and rhythm keeps your nether regions buzzing with pleasure. Alternate hard and soft thrusting and rubbing. Try switching arms if you can.
- Clean Up: You cannot leave a crusty vibrator sitting around. Start each session with a sanitized, clean sex toy. The best method is cleaning your vibrator using the proper tools (antibacterial, non-scented soap, and a clean towel, for example) as soon as you’re done.
Using a vibrator to improve a solo session is tons of fun. There are many ways to jack off with a magic wand, so don’t hesitate to try new things and be creative.
Using a Vibrator with Your Partner
Now we’re getting kinky. Using a vibrator with your partner is tons of fun! You’ll need to follow the same steps as when using a vibrator solo. In addition, there are only three methods you can use:
- Mutual Masturbation: This is when you both have your own vibrator, and each person is pleasuring themselves. No touching each other—just pure raging self-pleasure with lots of sensual eye contact and heavy breathing.
- Voyeuristic Masturbation: This is a highly sexual practice when one partner watches the other masturbate with their vibrator. It’s like putting on a show that ends in an orgasm.
- Using the Vibrator on Your Partner: In this situation, you or your partner will use the vibrator on the other. You can use the vibrator in different sex positions, different settings, and with different fantasies.
The most important thing to remember when using a vibrator with your partner is constant, open communication. It can be intense to bring a toy into the bedroom. Ensure your partner is comfortable, and check in on your own comfort levels.
This is also a great opportunity for exploration and sexual fun. Don’t be afraid to brainstorm with your partner and try new techniques.
Get Your Vibe On with Fleshlight
Congrats! Now that you know how to use a vibrator on your own and with a partner, it’s time to pick out the perfect vibrator for you.
At Fleshlight, we carry the best sex toys for women, couples, men, and more. All our toys are made in the United States, designed to last, and will deliver stunning pleasure. Pick out your favorite (or favorites) and get your vibe on!